Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Paper Signing and Potty Training

Dear Ones:

Well today is an exciting day in our family. Today we meet with our adoption worker and sign our adoption placement agreement. This means once that ink has dried there is no more risk. Jubilee hope won't be going anywhere. I don't even know if it has really hit me yet that this day is here. You kind of just get used to living in limbo mode, but some finality is on the way. Once we sign, we again wait for the judge to sign for finalization. Then we CELEBRATE!!! I already have great ideas for her party. I have her outfit and let me tell you it is adorable. As soon as I can Ill be sharing pictures of her adorable face... I can hardly stand it so stay tuned...

And now for potty training. It has me discouraged. We have been working on it for over a year. The special education school worked on it for over a year and still those dots do not connect. I went online last night to try and research some resources for training special needs kids. Once again everything I read about F.A.S children left me even more discouraged.

I read this many times from different sources last night:

"It is common for the child with FAS to still be having issues around toilet training at age 6 or even later sometimes up to age 8. The less concern about this, the better. The neural pathways are not yet well-formed, and when the brain development progresses, there will be progress. Sensory input is sometimes not functioning properly, and the message does not get from the body to the brain in time to act. This is almost always a neurological issue, rather than a psychological one."

Why does this bother me so much? Options. The longer my girls struggle with this area the less options will be available for them. I am loving their new pre-school, but I stress that if progress continues to prolong and if Mercy continues to dig in her messy diapers (happened twice at school last week and I woke up to her artwork this morning) then it may become more than the school is willing to take on. Then what will we be left with? I know this challenge like all the others they face I need to just submit it to prayer and trust in my God who loves those sweet chocolattes more than I do. Fear has just been gripping me about it all so can I ask for some prayer? That we will have wisdom and patience and that I will rest knowing that God is going to provide the very best for my girls. That they will progress and shine for His glory because I will continue to believe that F.A.S will be fulfilling. almighty's. story.

Thanks for listening...


  1. Hi, Michelle,
    I don’t know if you want input on potty training, especially from someone without children, but I thought about a few things while reading this that I thought I might share. You may have tried them all already.

    Do you take the girls to the bathroom on a regular interval? Maybe if you have them go on a set schedule the routine might help them to get in a groove and also not leave them with dirty diapers for long enough to give them the opportunity to mess with them. It might also help at night to get up at a certain time to check/change their diapers so they don’t have the opportunity to mess with them.

    Do you use any type of reward system for when they use the bathroom? Maybe with a reward that they really like or want it would give them the motivation to get potty trained. This could also work if they get some kind of positive reinforcement every time they tell you that they went to the bathroom in their diaper or every night they go without an incident.

    Hope this helps and good luck.


    1. Hi Emilie,

      Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. I love hearing from my readers. We do take the girls every 45 minutes and some days they do very well with little accidents and others they are soaked or soiled every time we go. We also reward them every time they go with tons of praise and try to get dirty diapers as soon as we can but still struggle. But I appreciate you taking the time to comment we will just keep keeping at it :)

  2. Hi, I stumbled across your blog. I am in the process of adopting my son (age 4) through the foster care system. He has some special needs, including significant brain injury and is under-sensitive to most stimuli. This is the book I used over the past few months--with success!! When we started potty training he had absolutely no awareness of what his body was doing--even denying bm's while having them. He did not show ANY signs of being ready for toilet training. He's now daytime trained, pull-ups for night time only, and it only took 3 or 4 months I think? Anyhow, I'm thrilled! This is the book (don't let the Autism title detract you--my son does not have autism, but it was still very helpful): The Potty Journey: Guide to Toilet Training Children with Special Needs, Including Autism and Related Disorders [Paperback]
    Judith A. Coucouvanis (Author)
    Hope that helps!

    1. Thank you so very very much!!!! I will order it today!!!


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