Monday, August 24, 2009

Hearing Update

Dear Ones:

I just heard from Eric who went to the hearing. The parents have until Feb 23 (next court date) to complete required steps to get the girls back. Our girls have the same dad and he had 2 family members there, a grandmother and an aunt who both said they are going to petition for custody. Once again we feel deflated, but I guess that is the nature of the foster/adopt process. We are just really really sad. Eric said you get so many more details when you go to court. He said it is like a Hail Mary pass that they will ever be ours. I know if God means for them to be ours then a Hail Mary is nothing for him to accomplish. It is just so VERY VERY hard not knowing what he means to happen for the girls or us. We love these precious girls like they were born to us. I know it is valuable to them that they get this love from us even if it is not forever. Sometimes, though, that is very little comfort for something your heart has longed for so long. Maybe that is God's plan though, I just do not know anymore. I feel like a heel when my selfishness creeps into the situation. My mind can be my worst enemy.

Just please continue to pray for all of us. Pray for the girls that their heavenly father who loves them more than we do will have His way in their lives both now and forever. Pray for our boys and Eric and I to know and obey the Fathers will, whatever that may be, and to bring him glory and honor as it all plays out. So many times in my emotions I know I have failed to do that, but I want to weather or not I get what I want or not.

Our hearts are hurting...


  1. I absolutely do not know these parents and their extended family obviously but I do know this family has been aware of what has been going on for a long time (this just didn't pop up) and did nothing. I also know that more often than not when you have families that have addictions and horrific problems it stems from the parents and on down the line. Not always but often. Our girls were in their birth grandparents home for a short time but it was soon obvious that the grandparents had deep problems also. They loved them but had horrble issues that stood in the way of caring for the girls. God know and I stand by the fact God knows the desires of your heart and brought these girls into your home for a reason and it wasn't to rip them from you. I stand by that!!

  2. The fact that they will go for custody means NOTHING! The bio parents have to give permission, whoever wants the girls has to go through a homestudy...there are still hoop for them to jump through. Be at peace. It's HIS will. Fostering is the HARDEST thing I've ever done. But God is showing me more and more that I only need to trust and obey. Your sweet baby girls are in the palm of HIS are YOU! :)

  3. I'm with the other two commenters above me. Just because words are spoken doesn't mean action will follow. Love those babies and trust God will take care of your heart.

  4. Just another person saying: just because they SAY they will file for custody does not mean they will. And even if they do, does not mean they will pass.

    Simmy had two aunts file for custody. Both denied.

  5. You stay strong, ok?? There's nothing the enemy wants more than to cast doubt and fear and angst, but we do not have to give in to those thoughts because we serve the True and Holy Creator of the Universe! I know how hardships and uncertainties can just rip your heart out, but be vigilant and steadfast and keep on believing God, and it will not be in vain, I promise! (And please don't think that I'm not sorry for this hardship in your path, because I most certainly am. I know this road can be a long and difficult one. Hugs and prayers coming your way!)

  6. I'm right there with you....and understand just how you are feeling...praying for you!

  7. I love these comments above me. I will be praying for God's best for these girls and I TRULY believe that is your wonderful family. Lots of love and hugs.

  8. Man...I wish I could be as nice and helpful as all the other comments above but I can't.

    I'm MAD.

    That the domestic fostering/adoption system has become so convoluted as to be able to cast fear with the utterance of a few words ticks me off.

    Fear that, even with the amazing peace of our God, will be looming until February possibly?

    Fostering/Adoption should not be about "winning" or "Fighting" .... It SHOULD be about the kids...

    but it isn't so much of the time.

    Next time I post I will be nice again but right now I am honestly just so mad....

    I am SO very sorry for this news, praying desperately that these spoken words have no weight, and that you are able to shoulder this added weight for the coming months.

    You and your family are doing God's much as any pastor, missionary, or evangelist....YOU all are on the front lines...


  9. I am so sorry you have to wait...again. Waiting stinks! Praying for you, and your family.

  10. Thank you everyone for taking the time to comment and encourage and mostly pray. I am grateful for the support.

  11. Oh Michelle, I am so sorry to hear this. I know that God will see you through it.
    We have moved, and I have a new email address. It is I'd love to hear from you again. It's been so long.
    We also heard that the twins return home date is set for sept. 15th... two weeks away. We are....dealing.


"As for me and my family, we will serve the Lord."

Joshua 24:15

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